A Valentine’s Day Reflection on Relational Capital in College Athletics
I hadn’t planned to publish today.
But Valentine’s Day invites reflection — and in college athletics, relationships are not adjacent to the work. They are the work.
In an industry measured by wins, budgets, and metrics, the most durable programs — and the most sustainable careers — are built on something less visible:
Relational capital.
Whether you serve in athletic communications, administration, coaching, or operations, your effectiveness rises or falls on the quality of the relationships you build and steward.
Here are a few reminders.
Relationships Are Your Real Resume
Staffs turn over. Conferences realign. Titles change.
Your reputation remains.
A résumé opens the door. Relationships determine whether you’re invited back.
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Honor timelines.
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Follow through on small commitments.
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Guard trust carefully.
Credibility compounds — and so does inconsistency.
Communication Is a Competitive Advantage
Most departmental friction isn’t about effort. It’s about clarity.
The strongest professionals:
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Clarify expectations early.
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Address issues directly when possible.
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Confirm alignment instead of assuming it.
Strong communication builds strong culture. Strong culture sustains success.
A Lesson I’ve Learned
Early in my career, I was focused on output — game notes prepared, releases written, coverage secured. I measured value in productivity.
What I’ve learned over time is that people remember how you handled pressure more than how quickly you turned a document. They remember whether you stayed solution-oriented during a tough loss. They remember whether you supported a coach when messaging was difficult.
The work matters.
But how you work with people matters more.
Serve Before You Need Something
Transactional networking is obvious. Service-based relationships endure.
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Make introductions without expectation.
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Promote colleagues publicly.
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Offer value before asking for it.
Relational equity built in steady seasons sustains you in challenging ones.
Follow-Up Is Professionalism
A recap email.
An update to a mentor.
A check-in without an agenda.
Follow-up communicates respect. It signals intentionality. It keeps relationships active rather than archived.
Invest Laterally
It’s natural to network upward.
But your peers today will be tomorrow’s athletic directors, conference administrators, and senior leaders.
Build authentic relationships across campuses and roles. Celebrate others’ growth. Stay connected beyond job changes.
College athletics is smaller than it feels.
Protect What Sustains You
This industry demands nights, weekends, and constant responsiveness.
Sustainable leadership requires boundaries.
Protect time with family.
Set communication norms.
Remember that availability is not the same as effectiveness.
Longevity is a leadership skill.
Gratitude Is Strategic
Appreciation strengthens culture.
Thank the operations staff after a long event weekend.
Recognize the athletic trainer who handled a crisis quietly.
Acknowledge the student assistant who stayed late.
People support leaders who notice people.
Final Thought
Championships matter. Budgets matter. Wins and losses matter.
But relationships determine culture.
Relationships determine longevity.
Relationships determine leadership.
Love the work.
Lead through relationships.
In college athletics, that’s what endures.