Pitfalls of Mentorship (September 19, 2025)

 mentorship can be transformative, but it’s not always smooth. Here are some common pitfalls of mentorship to be aware of:

1. Mismatch in Expectations

• The mentee may expect career advancement or networking opportunities the mentor isn’t able to provide.

• The mentor might expect more deference, commitment, or gratitude than the mentee is ready to give.
  ➡️ Clear communication upfront helps prevent disappointment.

2. Overdependence

• A mentee may rely too heavily on the mentor for decisions instead of developing independence.

• This can stall growth and create burnout for the mentor.

3. Lack of Boundaries

• Mentorship can blur into friendship, which isn’t always bad, but can cause awkwardness if criticism or accountability is needed.

• Time boundaries matter too—mentorship shouldn’t feel like an endless drain.

4. Stagnation

• If the mentor’s advice is outdated or the mentee outgrows the relationship, sticking with it too long can limit growth.

• Sometimes mentors unintentionally project their own career path instead of helping the mentee shape their unique trajectory.

5. Conflicting Agendas

• A mentor might steer advice toward what worked for them, not what’s best for the mentee.

• Or they might see the mentee as a way to boost their own reputation rather than genuinely supporting them.

6. Poor Communication

• Infrequent check-ins, vague advice, or a lack of honest feedback can weaken the relationship.

• Sometimes mentors avoid tough truths to “be nice,” which actually holds mentees back.

7. Power Imbalances

• If a mentor is also a boss or gatekeeper, the mentee may feel pressured to agree rather than challenge ideas.

• This can silence authentic growth and reflection.

8. Lack of Commitment

• Mentorship takes effort on both sides. If one party isn’t invested—whether it’s showing up, following through, or preparing—it quickly loses value.

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✅ The takeaway: Mentorship works best when both mentor and mentee establish clear expectations, open communication, and mutual respect—and accept that it’s okay for the relationship to evolve or even end when it has run its course.

Here are some best practices to avoid these pitfalls so you have a kind of "mentor/mentee checklist"?